A pessimist and an optimist. How to reach an understanding?

To prove the pessimists, that life can all be achieved, that people by nature good, and everything depends on you, hard. Often the opposite happens. Pessimist optimist argues that all too difficult and complicated. After all, he has a lot of stories from my own experience, which carry a negative. And no doubt he thinks he's right! After all, he always is going on, and so different and can not be. Level happiness   Tendency to optimism and pessimism has a physiological nature. This is predetermined by the fact that the level of the hormone serotonin, responsible for our mood, in the body of every person - is different. This does not mean that someone better and someone worse. Each character type has its pluses and minuses. Very often cheerful optimists may be frivolous, but sad pessimists - thoughtful and focused. Pessimists are often surprised by how optimistic can be so easy to look at things, without going into them. After all, he is usually a long time "loops" on such issues, an optimist who decides to quickly and easily. In turn, an optimist, a pessimist talking to may be disappointed by his immersion in the details in those situations that seem to be so easy to solve. Pessimists, moreover, often create for themselves certain rituals and live by them. For example, a very comprehensive approach to learning - with notes, the writing of key words. Optimists also work often situationally appropriate, and decisions are taken depending on the specifics of each situation. They are more flexible, but this is their flexibility and the pros and cons at the same time. After all, sometimes a ritual - a clear pattern of behavior in certain situations - still justified because of experience and time tested. Communicate with a pessimist too often resembles a ritual - for example, required for a coffee or tea. As in the East, where there is generally more ritualiziruyut relations. Optimists same and also to communicate more situationally appropriate. Modify friend   When communicating, people can believe that when they will change the way of thinking and world view of his interlocutor, that we shall be happy and it will be easier to live. So sincerely trying to change another. Especially - when love. This is not the desire to make someone suffer, but because of love. By the way, who is who - who is an optimist, a pessimist who is - can say except that an outside observer. After all, each in his own skin can consider himself an objective, and anybody can call himself a realist. Sharing joy   Human nature often pessimistic view that need to downplay their domestic happiness, because happiness is dangerous to show - could happen is something bad. Therefore, according to a pessimist, happy to be impossible. Often the work of psychologist is precisely to teach people to enjoy peace. Explain that the person becomes happier when his luck shows, and does not hide. And the pessimists are often a problem with the investment of feelings - they are afraid to share their good feelings. But the poor are divided. They tell horror stories, as if to warn the other that can happen trouble. But it does not understand that in response to receiving more negative. Once more Osho (Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (1931-1990), famous Indian religious leader) said that a man needs to learn how to keep happiness from inside yourself. Holding him to impregnate them, as a cream cake - right through. Then the person will feel truly filled with happiness and be able to share them. Double Life   You can often look like an optimist, but inside be a pessimist. For example, at work, people can be optimistic, but at home with their families - a pessimist. Or vice versa. And do not even notice that there is a fickle of nature. Often this variability is striking others who believe it is hypocrisy. But in reality, this means that the person is still not well understood themselves. He was very nice to live like that, but others are not receiving from him of what expect. Tips Optimists   Optimists should remember that the pessimism of someone with whom they interact - often only a mask. Usually when something with such a man something bad happened, from which he made a general conclusion about the world: "There is no need to share with people their happiness. It must be kept inside. " So people should just show that not all that bad. And if a pessimist communicate more time and show him that the world is not so black, he gradually begins to see its color. And no need to accuse a pessimist in a bad mood - he has his reasons for this. Recall depressive donkey Eeyore. Become so he was forced to the circumstances of life - he lost his body. And the pessimist feels this way. He feels that when he is sharing with people something good, something like a lost body part - part of himself. But if the pessimist will always be among the optimists, it will receive from them their joys and see firsthand how people are divided among themselves by something good, and nothing it does not lose, and vice versa - get. Tips pessimists   The main advice for a pessimist - not afraid to communicate with people. Learning to share not only bad, but good, share any emotions. If a person is too ritualized, it is usually afraid that his luck evil eye. Therefore, the pessimists say mostly the bad. Many brought up at the meeting "whine" that there is no money, health ... It's such a psychological game, which, as people believe they are protected. This makes them more pessimistic about the territory, where in the middle, you can save a little of its own optimism, in which they will never admit. Therefore, in general, in communion with the optimist pessimist everyone has something to be gleaned from the opponent. Pessimists - learn to open up to others to exercise their positive emotions and optimistic - learn more thoughtful and thorough approach to issues.